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Have I Got a Guy for You (Not!)

Have I Got a Guy for You (Not!)

“I met a guy I think you’d like.”

Words every single gal likes to hear, right?

But what if after these words are uttered, and you heartily agree to being introduced to said perfect gentlemen, you then you sit back and …wait.

And wait some more.

I mean, how many times can you remind someone that they were the one who promised to set you up in the first place without looking like a total pathetic loser? Or worse, like you’re desperate?

As they say in Hebrew, lo naim.

Because being single is disheartening enough, but at least you’re not relying on anyone in particular to change your situation. But to then have someone dangle a potential right before your beady little eyes only to disappear with the goods is, well, enough to make you want to issue a citizen’s arrests.

Which is another way of saying, I’m the worst possible waiter, EVER.

Now if this applies to you, don’t think that just because I’m wagging my finger and am about to send you to the naughty corner that I think you’re a bad person. No, no, my sweet. You’re not a bad person, you’ve just done bad things!

Which is another way of saying, you had good intentions.

And I’m sure there were lots of good reasons why you didn’t follow through. (There is no way you just forgot now is there?) Maybe you approached the gentleman in question and then he fell in love with you instead. Or maybe he checked out your single girlfriend on Facebook and demanded that you send him someone a bit “hotter.”

What to say then?

I’m glad you asked. Because in my cranky-pants opinion it’s not so much what you say as just saying something. Anything. Acknowledge that you offered to make the introduction but in the end it didn’t work out.

Your single friend will forgive you, I’m sure.

What’s unforgivable is to just never bring it up again.

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